If You Feel Like You’re Meant for More But Can’t Move - Read This
You’re not stuck – you’ve outgrown the identity you’ve been living in.
This post walks you through how to understand who you really are, realign your life, and start becoming the person you’re meant to be.
Table of Contents
Introduction
Do you ever sit there and wonder… is this it?
On paper, your life looks good.
You can list everything you’re grateful for – your career, your friends, your health, your routine.
And yet…
There’s this quiet resistance.
A feeling you can’t quite explain.
Like there’s something more for you – but you can’t see it clearly.
Like there’s a version of your life just out of reach.
I know that feeling because I lived it.
The Feeling I Couldn’t Ignore
At 27, I had what most people would call a “good life.”
- A stable job as a junior manager
- A solid salary
- Amazing friends and family
- Teaching pole dancing on the side
- Travelling regularly
- A full, busy social life
Many days, I felt genuinely happy.
But a lot of the time?
There was this dull, lingering feeling in the background.
Like a tab open in my brain I couldn’t close.
“Is this all there is?”
Why This Feeling Isn’t Random
If you’re feeling this right now – you’re not broken.
This kind of dissatisfaction is actually very common in your mid to late 20s.
I remember reading ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ by Louise Hay, a world renowned self help author, and coming across a section about emotional development in your late 20s.
It wasn’t scientific – more observational – but it hit hard.
Here’s the idea, simplified:
27 → The Wake-Up Call
Things start to feel off. You question your life, your choices, your direction.
28 → The Breakdown
Old beliefs get challenged. Life feels uncomfortable. Everything feels tested.
29 → The Identity Shift
Things begin to click – if you lean into the work. You start becoming someone new.
You may be reading this not in your late 20s, but I don’t believe that the energetic ages are set in stone and that this period of time may be different for everyone.
For me, I couldn’t believe how accurately it reflected what I was going through.
What I Decided to Do About It
When I was 28, I made a decision.
3 weeks before my 29th birthday, I moved to Australia.
I didn’t fully know what I was looking for but I knew I couldn’t stay where I was.
So I:
- Quit my job
- Sold my house
- Left my routine
- Said goodbye to everything familiar
And if I’m being perfectly honest… It broke me open.
The Identity Crisis No One Talks About
Without my job, my routine, my labels… I didn’t know who I was.
I realised how much of my identity was tied to:
- my job title
- my lifestyle
- what I owned
- how others saw me
And that’s when the real work started.
Step 1: Understand Who You Actually Are
The first shift was simple… but uncomfortable:
Who am I – without everything I have?
Here’s what helped me:
Write down everything you believe about yourself: your job, your roles, your personality traits, how people describe you
Then separate them into two categories:
1. Who you ARE
(e.g. kind, curious, driven)
2. What you HAVE
(e.g. job, income, relationship, status)
Because:
If your identity is built on what you have… it will never feel stable.
Step 2: Find Your Direction (Not Your Perfect Purpose)
I didn’t wake up one day knowing my purpose.
I had to explore it.
If I’m honest, I still am to some extent. Although my clarity now is worlds apart from what is was 3 years ago.
One exercise that really helped me came from The Key to Living the Law of Attraction by Jack Canfield, a leading Law of Attraction practitioner.
Some of the questions I reflected on were:
- What do I love doing?
- What am I naturally good at?
- What do people come to me for?
- What have I struggled with or overcome?
- What difference do I want to make?
- What would I do if money didn’t matter?
- What themes keep repeating in my life?
Over time, patterns started to appear.
For me, it became clear:
- I love understanding people
- I love teaching
- I care about growth and behaviour
That’s where I’m building from now.
Step 3: Audit Your Life Honestly
Once you have direction, the next question is:
Where am I actually right now?
This is where the life audit comes in.
I used something called the “wheel of life” and looked at:
- Career
- Money
- Health
- Relationships
- Personal growth
- Environment
- Emotional wellbeing
- Fun & enjoyment
- Purpose
Instead of trying to change everything at once, I asked:
What are the next 3 steps in each area?
Not perfect. Just progress.
Step 4: The Part No One Warns You About
This is where most people get stuck.
Not because they don’t know what to do –
but because, deep down, they don’t believe they’re the person who can do it.
This is where limiting beliefs, self-sabotage and procrastination all show up.
Why This Happens
Your nervous system is wired for safety.
And unfortunately…
“New” = unsafe
Even if the new thing is better.
So when you try to change:
- your habits
- your identity
- your direction
Your system pushes back.
Not because you’re lazy
but because you’re unfamiliar.
Step 5: Rewire Who You Believe You Are
This is the real work.
You don’t just set goals.
You become someone new.
For me, that looked like:
- daily journalling
- questioning my beliefs
- noticing patterns
- consciously choosing new behaviours
It wasn’t quick.
It wasn’t easy.
But it changed everything.
Conclusion
Where am I now?
I’m not “finished.”
I don’t think anyone ever is.
But I can say this:
The person I am now is completely different to who I was 3 years ago.
And more importantly…
I trust myself now.
If You’re Feeling Stuck Right Now
If you’re reading this and wanting more…
I’ve created something for you.
A workbook designed to help you shift your identity, set aligned goals, and actually follow through – step by step.
This is the exact kind of work that helped me move from feeling stuck and uncertain… to clear, intentional, and in control of where my life is going.
It will be available on my store in the coming weeks.
And if this post resonated with you?
You’re going to want to get your hands on it.
For now, just remember this:
You’re not behind.
You’re not broken.
And you’re not failing.
You’re just at the point where your old identity doesn’t fit anymore.
And that?
That’s where everything starts.
